Dangerous Friends
I read somewhere once "If life is like a journey and our job is to travel its sometimes beautiful, sometimes dangerous paths, it behooves us to make some good friends along the way."
Some of the friends we choose are like kindred spirits, to whom we don't even need to explain ourselves to. They just get it. There are other friends that are polar opposite to us and sometimes they take us places that we never would have ventured.
What all friends do (or should do) is enrich our lives or teach us valuable lessons. I have learned the hard way that Sometimes the lessons they offer is learned after we let them go.
Dangerous Friends are not the same as toxic friends. Toxic friends like Evilena eventually show their toxicity to you in one way or another. No, Dangerous Friends are a totally different variety. I call them dangerous because despite all the signs that point to "not trustworthy" you somehow proceed with said friendship and compromise your own happiness to please the person. You rationalize your actions (or inactions) to be their friend and you somehow end up giving the person access to you that they really should not have.
It's odd because in a romantic relationship things are a lot less hazy when removing dangerous people from your life. There usually is little doubt when to do this. But how do you sever ties with a dangerous friend who you know isn't any good for you? When is it ever the right time to do it?
I know a lot of people who have dangerous friends. I believe that these friends came into their lives and taught them lessons that perhaps they really needed to learn. It seems to me though, that the most valuable lesson that they may ever learn from their dangerous friends will probably be best learned after they let their dangerous friends go.
Why do we associate with friends we know aren't good for us? Maybe they themselves aren't dangerous after all. Maybe we are the dangerous ones by giving them too much power in our lives.
Some of the friends we choose are like kindred spirits, to whom we don't even need to explain ourselves to. They just get it. There are other friends that are polar opposite to us and sometimes they take us places that we never would have ventured.
What all friends do (or should do) is enrich our lives or teach us valuable lessons. I have learned the hard way that Sometimes the lessons they offer is learned after we let them go.
Dangerous Friends are not the same as toxic friends. Toxic friends like Evilena eventually show their toxicity to you in one way or another. No, Dangerous Friends are a totally different variety. I call them dangerous because despite all the signs that point to "not trustworthy" you somehow proceed with said friendship and compromise your own happiness to please the person. You rationalize your actions (or inactions) to be their friend and you somehow end up giving the person access to you that they really should not have.
It's odd because in a romantic relationship things are a lot less hazy when removing dangerous people from your life. There usually is little doubt when to do this. But how do you sever ties with a dangerous friend who you know isn't any good for you? When is it ever the right time to do it?
I know a lot of people who have dangerous friends. I believe that these friends came into their lives and taught them lessons that perhaps they really needed to learn. It seems to me though, that the most valuable lesson that they may ever learn from their dangerous friends will probably be best learned after they let their dangerous friends go.
Why do we associate with friends we know aren't good for us? Maybe they themselves aren't dangerous after all. Maybe we are the dangerous ones by giving them too much power in our lives.
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